What is gaslighting? Gaslighting happens in a relationship where there is a power imbalance. The person or persons in a position of power lies and manipulates the other person or persons who have less power in such a way that the target questions their reality and in the extreme, their sanity.
This is a form of abuse. How do you spot it?
I came across an article on Psychology Today that offers 11 signs that you are experiencing gaslighting. It's "11 Warning Signs of Gaslighting," by Stephanie A. Sarkis, Ph.D.
Here are the 11 signs she suggests can tell you that you are experiencing gaslighting: 1. They tell blatant lies. 2. They deny they ever said something, even though you have proof. 3. They use what is near and dear to you as ammunition. 4. They wear you down over time. 5. Their actions do not match their words. 6. They throw in positive reinforcement to confuse you. 7. They know confusion weakens people. 8. They project. 9. They try to align people against you. 10. They tell you or others that you are crazy. 11. They tell you everyone else is a liar.
It's important to be aware of the signs that you are being gaslighted so that you can do something about it. Please comment below if you feel you are being gaslighted or have experienced being gaslighted. I'm here to help.