Sex is a gift. It is one of the ways we communicate with one another. It can bring pleasure, strengthen connections with others, tell us something about ourselves, and create new life. Sex can be used as a mode of self-discovery and self-actualization.
Sexuality is the capacity we have for experiencing sexual feelings and is intimately aligned with our identities. We are all sexual beings whether we are engaged in sexual activity or not.
Sex can also become a curse. Many of us are raised with less than positive ideas and beliefs about sex and sexuality. Some people were sexually abused as children. Sexual trauma from sexual abuse can affect all areas of your life. Some people struggle with out of control sexual behaviors that cause them shame. Out of control sexual behaviors in particular can lead to legal problems, isolation, exposure to physical illness, the risk of being a victim of violence or crime, divorce, depression, anxiety, and other problems. All of these problems cause distress for the individual and it can weaken relationships with others.
Working with a therapist around sex and sexuality can help you cope with sexual trauma. Though therapy you can learn to tame out of control sexual behaviors. Therapy can uncover underlying shame and other unhelpful feelings and thoughts around sex and sexuality. It can free you to be able to engage in more meaningful and fulfilling relationships with others. You can come to a new understanding of the role that sex and sexuality can play in your personal development. You can reclaim sex and sexuality as gifts.
“We are all born sexual creatures, thank God, but it's a pity so many people despise and crush this natural gift.” ― Marilyn Monroe